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Life Skills · Prepare · Grades 9 to 12

Chapter 7: Goals & Work

Working Out What You Want

Notice what you actually do, not what you say you like.

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Working Out What You Want

Notice what you actually do, not what you say you like.

Routes, costs and rules differ by country. This teaches the questions to ask, not what you should choose.

2 situations to decide. There is often more than one good answer: pick one and see what happens.

Good at it, not into it

You get your best grades in a subject you do not particularly enjoy. Everybody assumes you will continue with it.

What is worth thinking about?

No idea

People keep asking what you want to do. You genuinely do not know and it is starting to worry you.

What helps?

What That Was

What you choose to do when nobody is making you is better evidence than what you say you are interested in.

Conditions matter as much as subject

Alone or with people, indoors or out, one long thing or many short ones, predictable or varied. People often pick the right subject and the wrong conditions.

You are not deciding your life

Almost nobody does one thing forever anymore. You are choosing what to do next, which is a much smaller question.

Test rather than think

A week of doing something teaches more than a month of considering it. Wherever you can try it, try it.

Try It

These ones do have right answers.

What Counts as Evidence?

Sort by how much it tells you about what you want.

You are trying to work out what suits you.

Tap something to move it.

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Quick Check

Question 1 of 1

Which tells you more about whether a job would suit you?

Your Life Mission

Something to do away from the screen. Nobody is checking.

Two weeks of evidence

  1. For two weeks, note what you choose to do when nothing is required.
  2. Note when you lose track of time.
  3. Look for the pattern in conditions, not just subjects.

Why: Two weeks of what you actually did beats any amount of wondering what you like.

What You Learned

  • What you do unprompted is better evidence than what you say you like.
  • Conditions — alone, outdoors, varied — matter as much as the subject.
  • You are choosing what is next, not the rest of your life.
For the grown-up

The pressure to have decided is heavy at this age and mostly unhelpful. Saying that most adults changed direction, with your own example, lowers it usefully.

The conditions point is underrated. People are much more often unhappy about how they work — alone, outdoors, predictable — than about what they work on.

Any real exposure beats any amount of discussion. A few days shadowing somebody teaches more than a semester of career advice.